As I am writing this post, my wife is in the midst of her 33rd hour of labor. Despite the lack of sleep and physical exhaustion, she still has a remarkably positive attitude and is determined to fight on; what an amazing woman! We’re excited to meet our boy, but he sure is taking his sweet-ass time to enter the building.
Yesterday I finished reading (actually, listening via audiobook) a fantastic book called, A More Beautiful Question, by Warren Berger. As you might imagine, this book is all about questions. The general summary is that people aren’t taught how to ask good questions, but that asking the right question at the right time can change lives, organizations, and society.
In the next few hours I will officially become a father. I can tell you with utmost sincerity that I have no idea what I’m doing.
Since I don’t have answers on how to become a good parent, I want to pose the questions I hope to explore while raising this child.
In no particular order, here are the questions on my mind when it comes to my son:
- How do we raise a kind human being?
- How do we raise a healthy human being?
- As a family, should we make more effort to develop our spiritual lives?
- How do I keep dating my wife?
- How can we avoid spoiling this child?
- When can we jointly develop our family values and mission statement?
- What can we do to help our child reject petty materialism?
- How do we teach gratitude?
- Should we get a dog?
- Should we get a cat?
- What can I do to become less selfish?
- What can I do to improve my listening skills?
- How do I learn patience?
- I’m a neat freak, how do I learn to live comfortably in a messy house?
- How do we teach our child to question authority, but also value obedience?
- How do I let myself gracefully lose arguments with my child?
- How do we build his confidence?
- How do we teach our child to value discipline and grit?
- How do we encourage our child to play more?
- How do we teach our child to love nature?
- Public school, private school, or home school?
- Are video games good for children?
- How do we teach our child to respect technology, but not be addicted to it?
- When can we start traveling to crazy locations?
- What if our child has a different definition of success than we do? How do we stop projecting our own goals and support our unique son?
- How do we teach our child to have an awesome sense of humor?
- How do we let our child fail without intervening?
- How do we let our child get hurt without intervening?
- How do we teach our child to resist peer pressure?
- How do we build a family where we regularly say ‘I love you’ to each other?
- When does the sex talk happen and how should we approach it?
- How do we do those teenage years?
- When can I go clay shooting with my child?
- How do we teach our child to love healthy eating and exercise?
- What can I do to consistently demonstrate that my family is more important than my career?
- Should we pay for his college?
- Should we set aside some money for him when he’s an adult to give him a head start?
- How do we stay close to our son when he becomes an adult?
- What advice will I share with my son when he becomes a father?
This post is more of a reference for myself. But if you have answers to any of the questions above, I’d love your comments.
I can’t wait to meet this little dude!