Yes, I look like a complete idiot in this photo.
Looking back at when I ran my education startup (2005 to 2012), I recall a lot of emotions and feelings. I remember existential stress, since from my perspective I was building a house of cards that could collapse at any moment (I was a little bit young and dramatic). I also remember exhaustion, as I poured everything I had into this startup; progress was always shaky and turbulent. I sacrificed health and relationships along the way.
But most vividly, I recall joy and purpose in running my startup.
My startup experience was weirdly spiritual. At the time I firmly believed that God had put me on earth to build the company I was building and serve the community I was serving. Despite all the stress and exhaustion, this underlying joy brought me tremendous peace, giving me strength push myself beyond what I imagined I was capable.
Ever since I became a dad a little less than 2 years ago, I’ve had to re-prioritize my life and lay dormant several side projects near and dear to me–one of which is this blog. Hence, why this is the first new post I’m writing in over a year.
Becoming a father has been one of the most fulfilling experiences I’ve ever had. I still don’t enjoy the feeling of warm poo on my hand every now and then (not mine, but my son’s), and the sleep deprivation has been horrific. But at the same time, having a child is just like falling in love, all over again. At the end of the day, my wife and I have created a brand new best friend, and our lives are way more fun and interesting.
Right before my son arrived, I sort of went into this reactionary life mode. Pre-kid, I was winging my career as an entrepreneur; however the prospect of having a child made me believe that I needed to get a steady job and that my days as a risk-taking entrepreneur were over (at least until the kid’s in college).
So, I got a job. A great job in fact, working as a product manager at Facebook.
Sharing a libation with my best bro on my 25th b-day.
Kate, a young entrepreneur that I’m mentoring, recently sent me this e-mail:
I’m turning 25 in two days, and I’ve asked a bunch of people from my life what they wish they had known at 25. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you’d tell your 25 year old self!
This is what I said:
Photo credit: Unfinished Business movie stock image
Every week someone asks me for advice about a startup job offer. I have no idea why people reach out to me about this. I’m not an expert on job negotiation by any means; but I have done a fair amount of hiring and deal making as an entrepreneur.
This post relays the main advice that I typically share to friends considering their startup offer. Hopefully I can use this post to direct my job-hunting network and save myself some time typing this advice over and over again. 🙂
How the heck did women give birth before modern medicine?
As I am writing this post, my wife is in the midst of her 33rd hour of labor. Despite the lack of sleep and physical exhaustion, she still has a remarkably positive attitude and is determined to fight on; what an amazing woman! We’re excited to meet our boy, but he sure is taking his sweet-ass time to enter the building.
Yesterday I finished reading (actually, listening via audiobook) a fantastic book called, A More Beautiful Question, by Warren Berger. As you might imagine, this book is all about questions. The general summary is that people aren’t taught how to ask good questions, but that asking the right question at the right time can change lives, organizations, and society.
In the next few hours I will officially become a father. I can tell you with utmost sincerity that I have no idea what I’m doing.
Since I don’t have answers on how to become a good parent, I want to pose the questions I hope to explore while raising this child.
In no particular order, here are the questions on my mind when it comes to my son:
My favorite photography subject of all time, my wife!
In 2015, I’m trying to take one thoughtful photo every day. I made a resolution to practice photography initially because I thought it would be a helpful life skill. I have a kid on the way, and heck, it would be nice to capture some embarrassing baby photos at the very least to troll him during his wedding slide show, some day.
I’m about 50 days into my art project; what I didn’t expect was how enriching photography would be to my life. Beyond the skill development stuff, photography has provided me a gift that I wasn’t prepared for: I appreciate the beauty of the world so much more.
Even when I’m not practicing photography, everything I see suddenly seems a lot more pretty. It’s amazing!
I’m super excited to announce that Hustle Con 2015 is officially happening on April 24, 2015 in San Francisco! This is an event for non-techies who are interested in starting startups, and it’s the third year we’re hosting this event.
So what is the point of our conference? Why do we exist when there are a gazillion other tech conferences?
Well, my team and I are on a mission to destroy a myth: that you need to be a techie in order to start a startup.
I meet so many would-be entrepreneurs every year who have awesome startup ideas, but are afraid. They make excuses like this:
I have a lot of friends who are startup founders. Lately whenever we meet up, I find myself sharing the same story with them; it’s about a car accident.
I can’t remember where I originally heard this story, but it stuck with me as an important metaphor for startup life. It goes something like this:
The gorge that nearly killed my wife two years ago.
It’s been over two years since my startup got acquired. People to this day ask me what I felt the moment this deal closed. Was it some feeling of satisfaction after bootstrapping my business for seven years? Was it elation in seeing a large wire transfer come into my bank account? Or maybe, was it validation from proving all my naysayers and competitors wrong?
Nope, I wasn’t thinking about any of that. The only thing I felt was gratitude. Not gratitude about my little startup achievement, but gratitude that my wife was actually alive.
What do you think of our pitch? We could use your funding. 🙂